It takes a village…
I am sure you have heard the saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child…’ Although this originally refers to child-rearing, it implies that community involvement is crucial for achieving a goal or task.
What it comes down to is - asking for help when we are not coping, are dealing with something, or creating something is okay - in fact, it’s essential! We are social beings yet we have become more and more disconnected from our communities. We are so wrapped up in our own lives and shit that we just get on with it. I used to think asking for help was a weakness! A sign that I could not cope!
Creating Community
The village, community or family comes in many forms - the ones we are born into and the ones we create. I have been building an online community for many years, and have publicly shared my journey. Yet, a month ago I decided to close the doors for a little while… I was dealing with something in my life and I just couldn’t do it so publicly.
Life online can be uncomfortable. Over the years, I have shared my personal journey to a large audience. Being vulnerable comes with a cost and I have dealt with my fair share of trolling and haters, this time I needed to feel safe.
I didn’t have to share anything at all, but that’s not how I do things. I chose to share what was going on for me with my existing followers because I knew what I was dealing with and the process would help others as well. It’s not rocket science - as humans, we share the same experiences and by communicating what’s going on for us, and what we’re dealing with, it lets others know they are not alone. And, more importantly, it gives others permission to heal.
There’s been a lot of processing happening with me. I’ve been feeling all of my feelings and woah what a fucking ride that’s been! This has not always been the case - I spent years disconnected from my feelings and myself. I used to think it was weak to admit something was wrong or to show big emotions. Thankfully, I have let all of that go!
I am an all feeling, emotional human being - and I celebrate the fact.
As always, from the place of pain, surrender and deep trust came the creativity, learnings and insights. And what I discovered was, I was craving a safe space to be vulnerable and share my learnings and what has helped me during my healing process.
I knew I wanted to build a community of people on a similar road. People who actively want to address their ‘problems’; and grow and change. Because we are evolving all the time! I know I am a different person than who I was a year ago. It never stops.
Healing is a very personal journey.
Sometimes we don’t want to, or are not ready to share what’s going on for us with others in our lives. They may worry, or maybe they’re part of the ‘problem’.
Therapy is a great place to start – but not all of us can access the therapy we would like.
That’s where the village comes in!
We can find deep healing and connection in the right community. We can heal our trauma in healthy relationships where we feel safe and heard, validated, and respected. When we’re connected and get the experience of belonging to a community that aligns with our values, we can allow ourselves to open up to love, help, and support.
I figured, if I need this, so will others.
The Healing Myself community is for you:
If you are healing, growing, or evolving,
If you feel life’s not working but you don’t know why?
If you want to change things up, or explore alternative paths.
If you want to let go of shame.
If you want to let go of what’s holding you back.
If you want to explore your sexuality, or identity.
And you want to do this in a non-judgemental and supportive space.
It’s for the brave and the curious - believe me, not everyone goes on this journey. If you are ready to grow and move beyond your comfort zone, come and join us.
The first email went out last week – it was all about my lessons from my last relationship.
Hands up - who finds they are a little needy in relationships? Who always seems to go for the unavailable partners? Who does not set good boundaries?
We have all been there to some extent!
Or maybe sex has got a little dull and repetitive, maybe you are yearning something different but are afraid to go there?
We will cover it all! I have loads of ideas and I want to hear what you all want as well.
The power of sharing
When we share our experiences and what we are going through, we realise we are all dealing with the same stuff – it might present in different ways, but when it comes down to it, we have the same insecurities, fears, needs and desires as others.
We see ourselves in others; we recognise hurt or trauma so we can uncover what’s holding us back or where we are self-sabotaging. From that place we can heal, we can inspire, be inspired, and lift each other up.
I am so excited to start this journey with you.
What you will get
For £4.99 a month you will get an email a week, a Facebook groups for sharing and support, a free 30 minute one-to-one coaching session with me when you sign up and discounts off my coaching packages and any events I do plus exclusive giveaways.
And - you can cancel at any time!
You can join the community here.