Why do I cry? Guest Post By Elaine

May 10, 2016

Blame science. Seriously. Along with being the bane of my school years, it turns out that science has followed me into my adult age to continue making me weep.
Not in the same way though.
These days, I can look at a scientific problem and hold back the tears and fears. I merely pass it to my husband like I do with sea urchin, broken stuff and difficult toddler questions.
The science that gets me welling up nowadays is my parasympathetic nervous system. Say wut?
You feel an emotion.
Your amygdala registers this and sends a signal to your hypothalmus.
Your hypothalmus activates your autonomic nervous system and off you go.
Simple, right? *COUGH*

Everyone cries. Pain, sadness, happiness and a whole host of other reasons. Almost everyone is a sad crier (unless you’re a psychopath). Some of us are also happy criers. Moi. See something that is cause for celebration? I cry. Something touching and sweet? I cry. Something related to babies, parents and animals? If it’s all three together, I don’t cry, I bawl.
The scientific bits in your brain can’t tell if you are happy or sad, unfortunately.
The sad tears:

One theory blames this emotional weeping on something called perceived helplessness. We look at a shelter dog, listen to Sarah McLaughlin singing a sad song, and perceive utter helplessness on behalf of that poor hound. Cue sobs. Same with wildlife programmes.
“RUN BABY GISELLE, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE! OUTRUN THAT MURDEROUS CHEETAH KILLER!” you (I) scream at the telly, your adrenalin pumping, heartrate almost through the roof. This quickly turns into “NO. NO. NOOOOO! OH MY GOD I CAN’T BELIEVE IT THE BABY IS DEAD! IT’S FUCKING DEAD! OH MY FUCKING GOD”. Uncontrollable sobbing at the sadness and perceived painful and pointless death.
Cut to programme showing how the baby cheetahs will only survive if their exhausted mother can catch a baby giselle for supper…no giselle, dead baby cheetahs.
“GET IT! GET IT! RUN MAMA CHEETAH, FOR FUCK’S SAKE GO FASTER OR YOUR BABIES WILL DIIIIIIIIIE!!!”. When mama cheetah takes down the now not so cute baby giselle, you sigh loudly in relief and guess what, cry happy tears that the babies will no long perish within the next four minutes of telly time.

The happy tears:

Your bestie gets wed. She sees her dress and cries. You cry too. Why? Who knows, you just do. Your sister graduates. You cry. Pride, right? Your baby says a full sentence that isn’t utter bollocks. You bawl. Why?! It’s not about perceived helplessness in this case, though. So, what is it? You are so happy, that your parasympathetic nervous system, along with your amygdala and hypothalmus all kick in and you find yourself sobbing, pig-eyed and snotty but there’s nothing sad about anything. Ridiculous.
[If you’ve imbibed a few drinkies, this can suddenly veer from emotional happiness to doom, interspersed with I FUCKING LOVE YOU I DO moments.] Moving on.
At the end of the day, you’re not a cry baby. It’s okay to shed tears of happiness and sadness. You’re neither a wimp nor a freak.
The freaks are those who see death and destruction and not shed a little tear. (Yes, I’m still talking about wildlife programmes.)

 

Elaine

Street Style Sunday – Perfect Summer dress

May 8, 2016

 

 

 

 

This dress came just at the right time. It’s the perfect summer dress, and dare I say (again) it’s very versatile too.

 

I could easily see myself wearing it to a festival, or for a night out on the tiles.

 

Those bell sleeves really do transform this dress. And navy is a great colour. Not as harsh as black and the perfect accompaniment to red lips. Whenever I see navy clothes, I instantly think of red lipstick.

 

 

Blue summer floaty dress

 

the perfect festival dress

Joy the store blue dress

park style - mums fashion

 

Dress | Bag

 

I wore it this weekend, the sun was out in its full glory in East London. We went to London fields Lido for a little dip, although a bit too cold for the littlest one, she only managed about 15 mins (if that) in the actual pool.  I, of course, choose the right kid to chaperone 😉 We then had a quick, little mooch around Broadway Market, before I was hurried along and stopped from actually buying anything, because the rest of the gang were apparently wasting away from starvation.

 

We ended the day with a BBQ and a few gins in the garden – bliss.

 

I hope you enjoyed the weather this weekend, and if you got up to anything exciting, please do share, I love reading your comments.

 

What do you think of the dress?

 

Love Nat x

 

Roo Beach Style

April 27, 2016

 

*Don’t miss the discount code in this post*

 

A couple of weeks ago myself and Zoe from Dress Like a Mum were invited to Cornwall for the weekend to attend their fashion event at Bedruthan Hotel (perfect for families), you can see pictures from that event on Roo’s Beach blog.

 

I feel like my blog has grown with Roo’s Beach, they have been a tremendous support for me from the very early days, when I was first introduced to them through friends. (Thanks Georgie and Kim).

 

I love developing strong relationships with brands and working with them in a more in-depth way, if we’re a good fit. The weekend in Cornwall was the perfect opportunity to get to know the lovely people behind Roo’s Beach better, who I’ve exchanged so many emails with.

 

During our stay Roo invited us to her boutique to pick out our favourites from the store and style them. I felt like a kid in a candy store, because there was just so much I wanted, I could have easily spent the whole day there, trying on everything. And playing with all the knick knacks.

 

 

Roo's beach boutique

 

 

fashion blogger style

Jumper | Denim Skirt | Necklace | Sun Jellies Bag | Sunglasses

 

Roos beach -  white jeans and yellow jumper

Jumper | Jeans | Bag | Sandals

 

cropped trousers and silk shirt - roos beach

Shirt | Trousers | Sandals | Clutch

 

fashion blogger on the beach

beautiful red wrap dress - roo's beach

Dress | Pineapple Necklace | Wanderlust Necklace |Sunglasses

 

Which outfit is your favourite?

 

About Roo’s Beach:

Roo’s Beach is a unique destination boutique located in Cornwall, not far from Newquay.

There is an eclectic mix of fashion, lifestyle products and vintage pieces. The boutique is bright, welcoming and stylish, without trying too hard. The specially curated edit of products would feel equally at home in Ibiza, as they would in Miami, and of course Cornwall or London.

There is a cute little coffee shop right next door to delight the most fussiest  of caffeine experts.

 

About Roo:

Roo, the owner, is a very special lady. She is extremely passionate about what she does, and that is evident when she speaks. She clearly has a skill for selecting a great team, as the other staff members are also just as enthusiast about Roo’s Beach as Roo is. They also seem more like a family than colleagues.
“Roo choses each garment with characteristic flair and attention to detail. Her choice is always based on our philosophy of Happy Clothes, as well a excellent quality at every price point and comfort – always mixing established brands with fresh new designers.

There is not one item in the shop that hasn’t been lovingly selected and tried on by her.”

She certainly does have a very special eye for knack for choosing stunning pieces, as you can see.

 

Love Nat x

 

Use the code STYLE20 for a wonderful 20% off your order. One use per person, expires on 9th May 2016. 

 

Here’s Zoe, doing what she does best and looking stunning.

Roos beach - zoe from dress like a mum

Travel Tuesday – Mini Rodini Style

April 26, 2016

 

Lately I’ve been focusing on my Instagram feed,  quite frankly because it’s so much easier to maintain. Rebranding the blog has been something I’ve been considering for quite a while now, but haven’t got round to it yet.  I will try and get my bum into gear and get round to it at some point this year 😉

 

I have themed Tuesdays, ‘Travel Tuesday’ on IG. So keeping true to the theme, here are some pics from our recent holiday to Ibiza, which I featured today on Instagram. See my feed for more details.

 

mini rodini swimwear

Swimsuit

 

I have loved Mini Rodini for years now, the mix of big, bold, and unique prints coupled with the supreme quality of their clothing, means they live on and on, often passed down from one child to the next, making them a firm favourite with parents and kids alike.

 

This space swimsuit is a prime example of a cracking print that Mini Rodini are renowned for. And so is this horse one.

 

Mini Rodini horse print swimsuit

 

Mini Rodini swimwear  SS16

 

 

Which Mini Rodini pieces are you coveting right now?

 

Where would you recommend to go on holiday with kids? I’m really liking the idea of Costa Rica, have any of you taken your families there? If so, I’d love to hear your hints/tips.

 

Nat x

 

We were lucky enough to be gifted the clothing in exchange for a review. All opinions are true and completely my own. I would never endorse a product I did not like or believe in. 

Fashion Retail Academy Review

April 13, 2016

Fashion Retail academy

 

Recently I attended a personal styling course at Fashion Retail Academy (FRA). The course was a great introduction to the world of personal styling, for people who are thinking about a career change or for anyone who wants to see if it is right career choice for them.

 

I was particularly keen to attend because I’ve often dipped my toe into personal styling through opportunities brought about via the blog, but I don’t actually have any formal qualifications. The course really helped me to recognise and consolidate my own fashion styling knowledge, as well learn new concepts.

 

The course tutor was Sarah Cook, she introduced to us to dressing different body shapes, current trends for men and women, the importance of colour when picking clothes for people and collating mood boards to visualise concepts.

 

style me sunday - review fashion course

 

Playing around with different ways to style a scarf.

 

head scarf - FRA

Mood boards - Fashion retail academy

 

making mood boards at fashion retail academy

 

I didn’t realise at the time how much I’d learned in only 3 days, until I started using what I’d been taught and putting it into practise. The course has been a wonderful introduction, and it has only given me the hunger to want to learn more.

 

To find out more about Personal Styling I asked Sarah (the course tutor) a few questions:

 

Tell us a little bit about how you got into Styling?  And what exciting jobs you’ve done to date?

 

Working in fashion was something I dreamt about since I was about 12, I would sit at home sketching ‘fashion designs’ and making outfits from my dressing up box. When the chance came, I enrolled at University where I studied Fashion for 3 years. After graduating I was lucky enough to get a long term work placement role on high end mens magazine and that was the beginning of my styling career. From there I soon secured my first job as a Fashion Co-ordinator on a men’s weekly magazine. About 4 years later I decided I wanted to branch out a bit and extend my skills further, so I decided to go Freelance and be my own boss. This was great move for me and since then (about 7 years ago now), I have worked with a large number of publications and brands – from Grazia and OK! magazine, to Sony Music and menswear brand, Jacamo. I recently worked on a new and exciting job that was something bit different for me. I worked closely with a female celebrity (who’s name I can’t reveal at the moment), and her book publisher on a new style book she is bringing out and I was closely involved in sourcing looks and styles to suit the various different aspects of her busy lifestyle. It will be on sale this Summer!

 

 

What do you like best about your job? What you like to do more of?

 

The thing I love most about my job has to be the variety, I get to work with so many talented people – from make-up artists and photographers, to Art Directors and models. I do also get to work with my friends when we happen to be on the same job, and its so good to know you’re going to spend the day with people who have the same love for their job as you do. There isn’t really any particular aspect of my work I would like to do more of. Being self-employed can be hard at times and really have to keep on top of your contacts and cash flow. So I’m just happy knowing I can be my own boss and get to have so much variety.

 

What is a typical day for you?

I don’t really have a typical day as my weeks can vary so much from one to the next. For the most part, it will start with a cup of tea and my laptop. Check in on my emails and have a little browse of Instagram to get myself set up for the day. Then I might pop into London for a meeting or perhaps some appointments to get some clothes together for a shoot. Alternatively, I might be heading of to a studio for the day to shoot some fashion. The down side is that I often find myself laden down with bags or a suitcase…but hey, it keeps you fit!

 

How would you describe your own style?

 

My style is very eclectic and I tend to wear quite a mix of styles depending on the weather or the event. As whole, I’m a strong believer in having good basics in your wardrobe as opposed to endless pieces of ‘fast fashion’ that you end up only wearing once or twice. I do have a soft spot for a good pair of trainers though and having a growing collection taking over my shoe rack! I found the talk about colours really interesting. I think many people don’t know much about what colours suit them, can you give us a very brief run through about colour matching? It can make such a huge difference to someones appearance just by wearing the right colour clothing and accessories…and of course make up too. To briefly explain the basics, you want to look at your hair colour, skin tone and eye colour to assess whether you might be better suited to warmer or cooler tones of colour. There is a good test where you can hold a piece of silver and gold card up against your skin. Look carefully at yourself in the mirror and as you hold each colour up against your neckline, look to see if it makes your face/skin look glowing and healthy, or drawn and pale. If the gold card is better for you, you suit warmer tones. If the silver was your colour, then you will suit cooler colours best. However, there are variations on these shades depending on your hair colour, but this basic test will give you something to start from and you can then go online to read up more if you wish. Just try to always trust your instincts, if a colour doesn’t give you confidence and glow, then its probably not for you.

 

Sarah Cook Stylist

 

Sarah Cook – Stylist

 

The Introduction to Personal Styling course is 3 days and costs £340 but I have a special offer code for my followers. Use – STYLEME15 enter the code at the checkout online to get an amazing 15% off any short course (excluding postgrad).

 

The next personal styling courses are on 18th – 20th May and 19th – 21st July. Details of all other short courses can be found online.

 

If you would like any more information about this particular course, please free to getting touch.

 

Nat x

 

Huge thank you to FRA for inviting me to share my experience with my followers.

Street Style Sunday – What’s your super power?

April 11, 2016

Tootsa MacGinty

Recently we’ve been having some behavioural issues with our daughter. She gets angry and frustrated and often takes it out on us, and her sister – the people closest to her.

 

It’s completely understandable as she is struggles to deal with extremely limited vision.

 

We have tried numerous things to try and get her out of a funk when you can see her mood changing. Sometimes they work, often they don’t.

 

But the other day I feel like we had a little turning point. After one such outburst, I took her away (we were on holiday) as the situation was only escalating and we cuddled on her bed for a long time, whilst she cried and let it all out.

 

Tootsa MacGinty Allo jumper

 

After a while I had a little spark (it doesn’t happen often) and I thought lets start focusing on her good points and not just on what she doesn’t have. What is special about her?

 

Tootsa MacGinty

 

 

I said ” You see everyone has their thing, all of us are unique and special in our own way. The power comes from when you are able to  find out what your super power is, use it, strengthen it and learn how to harness it’s power.”

 

Think about what YOU ARE good at, it could be that you have an innate ability to know how people are feeling, or your are creative and your pictures speak to people, or you have a special affinity with animals. Whatever it is, find it and focus your attention there. Lessons for all of us, not just the kids.

 

SO WHAT’S YOUR SUPER POWER?

 

Even if it’s a simple as smiling at a stranger and giving them little boost, whatever it is, use it often and don’t be afraid or underestimate it’s power.

 

Love Nat x

 

watermelon top from Tootsa MacGinty

 

These awesome clothes were gifted to us by Tootsa MacGinty, go to their website to see more of their latest collection. 

Street Style Sunday – Find your colour

April 3, 2016

 

Recently I attended Fashion Retail Academy on a personal styling course, review to come in the week.  Whilst there we talked about matching colours to suit your skin. It was clear that I was doing it already instinctively without even realising.

 

Have you ever thought about what colours suit you?

 

Colours, broadly speaking, tend to fall into warm or cold shades. Depending on you skin tone, one or the other will suit you. N.B I’ll talk about this in more depth another time. I still only have a fairly rudimentary knowledge myself.

 

I discovered on the course I have a warm skin tone by doing a quick little test (which I elaborate on in my review), so generally I suit warm-coloured clothing, such as gold, navy, orange and some shades of red.

 

One colour I’ve been in love with recently has been rust/ mustard. Luckily, we discovered this shade is good for me.

 

Here’s some recent examples of rust coloured clothes/ accessories I’ve been wearing. And another colour I’m not totally sure works or not.

 

 

natural hair black girl with glasses

Skirt is last seasons from Zara. Top is from Asos.

 

It’s an especially good colour to wear with a bit of a tan too. Which is why it makes such a great colour for holiday.

 

As you probably know I love my lipsticks, so it’s also good to think about what shade of lip suits you too.

 

Holiday outfit - Zara clothes

 

Both top and skirt from Zara.

 

Another colour that works well on me is (I think) is this light blue colour. Although I’m not sure it really fits in with the warm colour theory.  What do you guys think?

 

 

Off the shoulder top/ dress from Zara

 

Top/ dress  – Zara

 

Analyse your colours – Look into the mirror and hold up some of your clothed to your face. Pick a variety of different colours and shades. It’s often easier than you think to tell which colours work well with your skin tone or not. If you don’t find it easy, and of course some colours are much easier than others, ask a friend to help you out.

 

It really will aid you when you go shopping next and give you some direction.

 

Done the colour test? What colours do you think suit you?

 

Nat x

Street Style Sunday – PJ days

March 27, 2016

 

 

Happy Easter everyone!!!

 

You’ll be pleased to hear that this lurgy-infested house has finally come out of the other side and we are enjoying this lovely long weekend free from the shackles of house arrest. Hurrah!

 

I really didn’t realise how awful chicken pox could be. I felt so sorry for my little spotted chicken, it made her so sad. There was literally no piece of skin spared.

 

Even though we are finally unshackled, the weather isn’t exactly great right now, so maybe we will stay in our PJ’s all day, after all. We’ve been road testing The Bright Company PJ’s and they’ve had a lot of wear lately, as you can imagine. My girls only have a very select number of pyjama’s they will wear and these are one of them, so I know they love them. They are soft, comfy and I like the fact that they are not matchy matchy like other PJ’s. The print and colours are fab too.

 

The Bright Company pyjamas

The Bright Company pj's

 

Girl with glasses, smiling

lazy pyjama days

 

 

The Bright Company

 

the bright company pj's

 

 

As you can see the girls had a lot fun on this photoshoot. I didn’t give them any instructions, just said jump around on mummy and daddy’s bed. Clearly the thought of hopping around on our heads did the trick! Not a whiff of bribing, threats or cruelty to children in sight. The only problem was trying to capture them in focus all the time, my photography skills haven’t quite reached that level, as yet. I’ll work on it.

 

Usually it’s the youngest that loves a camera lens, today however the eldest one was performing like a pro.

 

What are you guys up to this weekend? Hope you’ve had fun and eaten your body weight in chocolates. Or is that just me?

 

Love Nat x

 

Sunday’s Monday Mantra

March 14, 2016

i can't find a focus

Street Style Sunday – All that sparkles

March 13, 2016

 

Since having my babies getting dressed up, putting make up on has felt like a huge treat. The ritual of slicking on a red lip, pulling out millions of different outfits only to pick the first one you reached for and leaving the bedroom in a right old state, is something I get all giddy about. When I was younger dressing up was, quite frankly, a pain in the bum. These days it feels special.

 

The downside of course is the next day, as we all know only too well. As I sit here still suffering from the after effects of our friends birthday night out on Friday! But we’ll gloss over that for now and just look at some pretty dresses that make you feel like a million dollars before the aftermath kicks in.

 

Sparkles, sequins, glittery, gold, shimmery and fabulous is what I’ve gone for here. The more glamorous the better in my opinion, why not go all out and leave a trail of sparkles as you go.

 

gold sparkly dress

 

gold sequinned dress from kaleidoscope

gold and black sequinned dress

 

sparkly and glamorous  dress

 

 

Gold sequinned dress | Black and gold sequinned dress

 

Of course these dresses require some ugly Gok Wan-esque type shaping underwear, but I think the overall effect is worth it.

 

What’s even better is they are not that expensive. I was kindly asked to pick my favourite items from Kaleidoscope Occasionwear and these were my favourites. The gold one is currently in the sale so it’s a absolute bargain. If you’re looking for something special without it being a huge investment, this is a great place to start looking.

 

Which dress is your favourite?

 

Love Nat x

 

If you’d like to work with me please email me natalie@stylemesunday.com I’m always happy to hear your suggestions. 

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