Let’s celebrate endings…
As I start to write this blog, the sun has just risen on the winter solstice, the shortest day and longest night of the year. After today, the days get a little longer. We have reached that turning point in the year as the light returns and we head towards the spring.
It got me thinking about endings… the end of the year, the end of being in your 30s or 40s, the end of a relationship or friendship.
Endings are usually associated with loss, yet our lives are full of endings. In fact, we see this in nature all the time, as we move through each season. It’s the natural cycle of things. We grow and get older, our bodies change, our children grow up, we leave school, Uni, jobs…
If you really think about it, endings are just as important as beginnings and I think it’s important to mark those moments, to acknowledge and perhaps even celebrate them, and in some cases, be ok with mourning an ending.
I wrote a blog a while back about my divorce and how the end of a relationship does not have to be a bad thing. It can be empowering. Who you were when you entered the relationship may not be who you are now. That can be celebrated as you have grown and changed and you want something different now.
We go through so many changes and cycles in life, I know I am not the same person I was at 17, or even at 37. Now in my 40s I embrace change, I embrace letting go of what’s not working for me and moving on, whether that’s my own limiting thoughts, people or work.
You see, endings can be empowering, they can be about renewal and regeneration too. Impermanence is life. The universe is constantly evolving and changing and we must embrace this if we are to truly thrive and not just survive.
As we leave one phase of life, we step into something new and if we do the deep work, you know, the going within and dealing with our shit… we move into a new space with more insight and integrity and see things through new eyes.
Looking back to move forward
It’s important to look back in order to assess where we are and where we want to be, we need to reflect in order to make the lessons we learn stick. But it does not work to keep dwelling on or revisiting the past. An ending signals a letting go and moving on.
There are ways of completing, tying up loose ends, making peace with or forgiving in order to close those doors and really move in. It’s a process. And once you have done that you are free and that’s something to celebrate!
The end of a year is a great time to think about your intentions for the year ahead and releasing old patterns that no longer serve you.
2022 was a year of some big lessons for me. Mostly it’s taught me that there is still work to do in order for me to grow and learn… in fact, I don’t think this ever ends, the more we let go and expand, the more we become aware of what’s holding us back.
Letting go and sowing the seeds for the new year
If you want to do this inner work I encourage you to consider where you are now, what it is you want and the actions you need to take to get you there. Spend some time thinking and journaling on:
What did I learn in 2022?
What are my current needs?
What old stories do I keep recreating?
What do I need to let go?
What boundaries do I need to put in place.
A really great activity involves visualising or writing about what you want to attract in this new year. Write as though it is already happening. Notice how it feels… does it feel good? That’s the energy you want to feel into. If it feels forced or it’s not resonating, go back to the drawing board.
These dark, cold days are the perfect time for going within and focussing on you, letting go of what’s not working, and heading into 2023 with the seeds of 2022 sown.
If you want some help with this process then come and join our manifesting course. It starts on 30th January and runs for 7 weeks. We’ll be kicking off with reflecting on what we’ve achieved and what we’ve learnt.
Happy New Year my loves - can't wait to connect with more of you in 2023!